Dating a man in his 30s
Your 30s is the perfect time to branch out from your typical “type” and date new people. “I’ve encouraged dating coaching clients of mine to date outside of their comfort zone, initially with resistance,” Spira says.
“It’s often a wonderful surprise when they actually enjoyed dating a different type than the ‘bad boys’ from earlier days.” That’s exactly why Virginia puts such a strong focus on inner traits instead of what looks good on paper.
“When you’re clear on the inner traits of someone, they’re probably going to come in a package you don’t expect,” she says. “I tell singles in their 30s to take a deep breath and not to focus on their age,” Spira says. “I find [rules] get in the way of finding a meaningful connection,” Spira says, because every situation is so different.
“If you remain open to what they look like, how tall they are, what ethnicity they are, etc., then you can actually find an amazing person that you might otherwise miss.” Dating in your 30s can come with this sense of urgency to have everything “figured out” and a the-clock-is-ticking mentality that puts so much pressure on every. “Many worry they won’t be able to have children and that their shelf life will expire once they turn 39. Couples are able to have children later in life or adopt and be fulfilled.” Virginia seconds this and adds that as long as you’re doing all the things you can to help call in the right partner (i.e. “The best rule I can offer is not to wait for the ‘perfect person’ because we’re all imperfect.” “As humans, we’re social creatures,” Virginia says.
If your goal is to get married, settle down, and start a family, don’t be afraid to write that on your dating profile.
Once you get clarity around your desires, which may require some self-reflection and sitting down with pen and paper, then start focusing on them. Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .Not in the mood to mess around with dead-end dates?It’s important that you first get really clear about what you want, Virginia says.