Asserting myself while dating
I soon realized that, for me, those things were the foundations for real connections — and that the way I was trying to connect with men before was totally shallow.There are some men who still balk at the fact that I’m so forward about who I am and what I’m looking for.
They’d told me exactly who they were from the beginning.And I realized very quickly that this less sanitized version of myself was not the type of "girl" these guys wanted to deal with.One day, I was talking to a man who asked me what I was looking for relationship-wise. Once he got even a whiff that I wanted a commitment, he ran away at such a breakneck pace that it confirmed everything society had been telling me about straight men: They wanted girls who were chill, not women who wanted a relationship.But there was a small voice in the back of my head that said, Luckily, that was the voice I decided to listen to. But the more I practiced, the better I got at asserting myself and my wants and needs when it came to relationships.I met a guy at a bar who happened to be friends with some guys I knew in college.